*in Zainab Balogun's voice* My pet peeve today is about persons we love. They charm us in all the possible ways, respect us, say the right things, are all shades of nice and sweet. We think they are the best thing after chocolate and we often say "Your spouse is so blessed to have you" or "You're such an amazing parent". The spouse/kids, if present, may give an humble smile or echo our words. We go home to pray for such an amazing spouse/parent. Or we question God, "Why isn't my spouse like that?" Upon all their efforts, daddy, as always, still has something to complain about.
It's 4pm. Daddy would be back by 5pm and the home suddenly, but as usual, loses it's peace. As mommy is jumping up and down, making sure food is not only ready before he gets home but tasty. She, alongside the kids, makes sure all loose ends are tied. Daddy shouldn't have anything to "fry" us about today. Neighbours/friends are diplomatically asked to leave. Oh daddy would be all sweet to them but he'll crucify mommy for making his home available to guests once they leave.
Everybody looks forward to 6pm. The ladies start packing their things and re-applying their makeup. The married men call home to ask what's for dinner and can't wait to spend the rest of the day with their wives and kids. The envied man, married to the very sexy Miss Nigeria 2012, mother of a set of 2 year old twin boys with a banging body, fantastic cook, good communicator, the seemingly perfect wife and mom, is however afraid to go home. His wife makes the home as hot as hell for him. She is very different from the sweetheart the world thinks she is. Definitely not the calm and reserved lady. Maybe the busybody, gossip, nag, never happy for others, jealous spontaneous bad belle, hypocrite, selfish nag can briefly describe her.
If you are like "Daddy" or the ex pretty queen, you are seriously jonzing. Why are you faking to people who do not care and treating those that care badly? You shouldn't treat anyone badly. But then, your family should never doubt your love and loyalty. Life is short. Why are you cruising on the high way to hell? Make things right. Stop faking the good life, live it. It's never too late besides, it better late than ever.
If a family member makes life difficult for you, pray for God to change the heart. Involve someone responsible or two that he/she respects, if need be. Get some good counselling. We'll talk about domestic violence extensively. Whether to leave or stay.
Thank you for reading. I'm sorry some of you have issues commenting. Will ask someone to look into it. Every other person that messages me, please feel free to drop a comment. Xoxo, Anuoluwapo.
Interesting piece. I think i experienced this kind of daddy when growing up. once we hear daddy's horn, everybody runs helter skelter. we turn off the TV, all the game activities stop and everybody pretends to be seriously reading a book or having siesta. Lol. I m not sure we have many of such" terrorist" or "masquerade" daddies nowadays sha. as for the ex-queen kind of wives....its only God that can help you oh.
ReplyDeleteOur writer's advise should help those in this category.
Thank you
Deletewelcoming "daddy" should always be a delight to any child. not saying he was flawless, but Thank God for my daddy. usually surprised when i hear gist of my friends father. before i meet their daddy, i go compose myself too.
ReplyDeleteI have a sweet dad but we composed if daddy is home. Everywhere must be tidy and we must be looking and sitting right, no noise making too. That's normal. It's part of training and discipline. I never had cause to doubt his love. But the daddy that would form sweetest guy ever liveth but make life miserable for his family is a big prob.
DeleteCould Aspirer be Tolu? Tolu's dad is the most young at heart daddy I know
ReplyDeleteThank you Aspirer, God bless your dad
DeleteGrowing up, all we owed dad was already done home work and we won't have to sit quietly or form siesta. Instead, we usually knelt on the sofa by the window awaiting his return cos of the ever sure snacky goodies. We had neighbors that used to form siesta for their dad, one of the kids is wanted for murder today. *notjudging*
ReplyDeleteI came home everyday with dad. He helped me with my homework until I got to sss1 and was feeling like a big girl, most of the time.lol. He had no issues with friends over and all. Just don't turn his house into a zoo. Thank God for our dads.
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