11 and pregnant

I had to suspend my drafted posts to publish this. I saw this on Instagram yesterday and couldn't get it out of my mind. Forget that she glows and the pregnancy sits well on her, she is 11years old. She should just be graduating from watching Disney Jnr to Disney. How dare she even look good? Lol.

The photo asks what one would do. Let me first say GOD FORBID. I'm totally against abortions so she is so keeping my grand baby. She will go back to school and I'll help her out as much as I can and she better be responsible and grow up before the end of 9months or whatever time it takes the baby to arrive. As long as she voluntarily had sex, she would not be allowed to smile, wear pretty dresses,  take photos, be on social media or have fun during the pendency of her pregnancy. I'll swap her smart phone for a 1500naira phone. Oh wait, she is 11. She wouldn't have a smart phone or be on social media sef. She'll watch and read all about pregnancy and raising a baby.

Then I thought maybe it wasn't her fault. Maybe she was raped. Hell awaits rapists!! The person that had sex with an 11 year old sef *sigh*

Could it be the fault of the parents? Maybe. Hustle is the spirit now. Money seemingly answers every question but money won't tell your baby to be decent and responsible. Isn't it one's kids they say one works for? So why don't you give them a life so your money can positively affect them? Make time for your kids. How would you when you got married for the wrong reasons. Money? Gave in to pressure when you know you're not ready or cut out for marriage? Marriage and childbearing seemed like the next thing? Because you found yourself pregnant? They need you more as kids. If your 11 year old gets pregnant, you should beat yourself.

Many times it's not the parents' fault. Majority of them talk, shout, pray, cry... But we no gree hear word. Without being told, even an 11 year old knows fornication is wrong and that's how one gets pregnant. Oh but parents still need to help them build strong personalities so right choices are easier to make. Please be wise, don't leave your daughters to the mercy of uncles, neighbours, teachers,... I used to have lessons at my grandmom's because my parents were not comfortable leaving me with a man regardless of how responsible he seemed. If you've tried your best you shouldn't beat yourself. You will feel bad but the child chose her path.

Church, school and society? Don't leave your responsibilities to those? When your kids hammer, are you not the one with the ultimate bragging rights?

Male children are not left out. You shouldn't protect only your unmarried daughters. Make sure your unmarried sons do not impregnate anyone. Besides, many men say their first sexual experience was with an older aunt, maid, family friend, cousin... Hmmm, homosexuals and bisexuals are also around, be careful.

Thank you for reading bloghearts. I must admit I know it's not easy. God help parents, prospective ones too.

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Here is the photo

Beauty series are coming soon.  How to shape your eyebrow, apply day/night/party makeup, tie your gele, fashion trends and of course something nice for the men. We'll be learning from professionals. I'm excited, you should be. Are you a MUA or into fashion. There should also be posts on rape, homosexualiaty, food, baby mama/daddy epidemic, domestic violence and more. Want to get involved? Holla tarabauer@gmail.com. All my love, Anuoluwapo