So I read about a female corper who was decamped in Delta state for slapping a male colleague. I tried to find out the guy's action that prompted her to slap him to no avail. Could it be that he touched her, said something nasty, a misunderstanding or an argument gone wrong? If he touched her, it could have been reflex but do you think that justifies the slap?
There was a debate as to whether or not the punishment was fair or harsh. Some ladies were quick to say the punishment was unfair for just a slap not minding what triggered it. Meaning even if she has anger issues, she shouldn't have been disciplined in such manner. How is a slap "just?" Aren't we hypocrites? Later we'll form feminists and share sad tales about men not treating us well. If it were the guy that slapped her, i'm sure he would have been crucified no matter his excuse for doing so. I've not seen feminists tweet against her action.
Getting physical is never allowed. There are better ways of expressing displeasure/anger or having an offender disciplined. It is rather shameful seeing a graduate metamorphose into a tout. What if the guy had beat her blue black before solders waded in? Some girls can be very saucy. They even brag about being rude. I pray you never cross paths with a seemingly gentle but ungentleman. You know he would have dealt with you well before people may rise to your defence?
Nobody should be hitting the other. Maturity, experiences and education should teach us to be calm and give us the ability to ignore, walk away and not dignify every foolish (in)action with a response. Thank you for reading. Have a good good week, Anuoluwapo.
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Maturity is the key my dear. Nice piece,keep it up
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DeleteIt would be very nice to really get to know what warranted the slap. Some of us are quiet aggressive though, we will be forming ever ready for violence of any sort from a man. I do not condone battering of any kind but we have to watch our tongues a lot as women. It takes a lot of self ministration from men not to hit some women with endless wagging tongues most times.
ReplyDeleteNice post Anu.
I'll like to know too. God bless the strong men who ignore "our" sharp tongues. Thank you :*
DeleteViolence begets violence. I personally would not fault the guy if he had slapped her back. I would feel the same if the roles were reversed or if they were both of the same sex. But would the person have been decamped if the roles were reversed or they were the same sex? Just wondering. I know in Naija it's a bigger crime for a woman to slap a man however adults should have learnt to keep their hands to themselves by that stage na.
ReplyDeleteThe guy would have been decamped if he had slapped her back, I suppose. Read about a solder and corper that were decamped after the corper returned the "favour"
DeleteThanks Mojisola :*
Cool blog
ReplyDeleteIts tough to manage women with sharp tongue or who afflict physical abuse such as slaps or even a punch but its neccessary that men understands that women are the weaker vessels and that the idle and honorable thing is to ignore and let her be. Men, lets hold and walk away.
ReplyDeleteI have been married for over 5yrs now but i have never raised by hand on my wife for whatever reason ans will never do. The truth is because i know its not biblical to do so number 1 and number 2, is i may inflict greater physical body damage if i were to react so at best i leave the house, cool off and come back and settle the matter.
ladies lets also learn to manage our mouth and hand oh. Women of virtue dont do such oh. If Sarah regards Abraham and calls him lord we can do so as well
Lol at lord.
DeleteThank you
Trust me, only weak guys beat women. It's a no-no!!! However, it doesn't mean women should disrespect guys. There are several ways to check a woman rather than get physical.
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