Saturday, 17 January 2015

Unfriendly friend

I see dps and pms saying we should have no care for people who don't treat us well. Paying people back in their own coins. But is life really that serious? Of course, I wouldn't expect you to be besties with someone who treats you poorly. You can be acquaintances, help out when you can, be kind, say hello with a smile. They have issues? Pray for them. Don't repay evil for evil. Matt 5:43-48; Luke 6:32. No point forming needless friendship and hurting yourself in the process.

I noticed I have a bad tendency to treat people based on how they treat me. I started working on it last year but gosh, it's hard. When someone I hold dearly treats me shabbily, I often forget to react equally. When that person repeats the same or similar acts, I stop going out of my way to be nice. Why should I be nice to you when you're unfair? I thought we're friends, I do this for you. Instead of doing same for me, you do it for other people. If they are better friends to you then I can stop right? *rme* The little things matter the most.

What would you do if someone treats you unfairly? An example? You patronise her and help publicize her business. You see her do same for others but not for you. Would you be indifferent or hurt? Keep supporting her business or move to another? For me, I may stop being a friend and carrying her matter for head but definitely not a frenemy. Life's short!

Thanks for reading bloghearts. Now kindly share your opinion/experiences. Love love, Anuoluwapo.

Luke 6:32 "If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them."
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16 comments:

  1. Anonymous17 January 2015 at 00:46

    I used to believe so much in friendship. But what will you do with a friend that sleeps with your father and sees the secrets you told her as a good topic with her friends? Will you sleep with her father too? Just be yourself and don't go out of your ways for silly friends.

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  2. Anuoluwapo17 January 2015 at 00:54

    Ah!!! Hmmmmm. Speechless. She will almost chop slaps, if she doesn't. In all, nobody is worth going to hell for #nogrudges #nomalice #forgive

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  3. Ire17 January 2015 at 02:02

    Food for thought

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  4. Anonymous17 January 2015 at 13:54

    You know why I love your blog? You dish real stuff out and you don't try to make yourself seem perfect

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  5. Anonymous17 January 2015 at 15:26

    I love this blog sha. U have a special way of dealing with topics too. Keep doing it ur way. Am sure Christ know how difficult it is to forgive some people that's y he hammered it in no small way for us to always forgive no matter what.

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  6. Anonymous18 January 2015 at 14:29

    You can't find inner peace when you hold grudges.
    Karen

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  7. Esquire19 January 2015 at 19:41

    i will like to add an additional scipture: Romans 12: 18 says DO ALL YOU CAN TO LIVE IN PEACE WITH EVERYONE. verses 19 - 21 says a lot more.

    We are expected to still live peaceably no matter what the other party does. our actions should not be based on the way people behave to us. The only difference is that i may not go the extra mile for someone who behaves badly to me but i still will have to help out if i can. Thats tough sometimes but its God's directive.

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    1. Anuoluwapo21 January 2015 at 11:45

      That verse hits the nail on the head. Thank you sir

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  8. Anonymous21 January 2015 at 11:32

    Why always talk about someone in the pretence of blogging a fictitious story. you could as well mention names rather than savouring the pleasure of always talking about your friends or family members and you claim to be non be non-judgemental. If you really claim to be friends like you say, why not then face the person and let he or she know the wrong committed rather always talking about people. Getting to the top in this game of blogging is not talking about friends and things they have done or that has happened to them. True friendship is all about patience, forgiveness and accepting people the way they are. Don't try to judge others when you have not been in their shoes. Even siblings, couples or parents and their children have issues too. But forgiving and letting go is the key that keeps them together or will they now say they won't talk to each other again because of that. Like you said life is to short to be enemies, so its not about what you have done for someone. God is the one that rewards all men and He will do that according to each and everyone's life spent. Don't because you showed kindness to someone expect the person to show you kindness back, if truly you showed the kindness out of a pure heart then you shouldn't expect it back. So stop sobbing and blogging about this friend doing this or that and get a life.

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    1. Anuoluwapo21 January 2015 at 11:42

      Lmao! E ti binu ni?
      I guess you didn't see the part where I said I have a bad habit ehn? Or you chose to ignore it? This post is all about me trying to get better. Why are you posting as anon?
      Life doesn't evolve around you. Stop this nonsense already, you hear?
      God bless you and me too. Amen!

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