My first love

"I thought I would start my speech by addressing you as the “new” family of my daughter. But I think it would be inappropriate because now that she is married, you are “the family” for her. Believe me; I don’t have a problem with that. I, in fact, want my daughter to have “you” as her priority now. Its time for us to take a backseat in her life. We would happily accept it but would surely request one thing- please keep her happy! She will perhaps be happier than what she used to be here. But like all fathers, I obsess over my daughter’s happiness. She never was and will never be a burden for me. She is in fact the reason why I breathe and smile. I am getting her married because this is what the law of nature demands. I am helpless in the face of our culture and therefore sending her to your home. She was the happiness of my home and will now light up your home. I am giving my world to you. Please make sure it remains beautiful. I am giving away my princess to you. Please make sure she stays as a queen. For all the care, love, beauty and warmth my daughter will bring into your lives, I just want her happiness in return—please keep her happy! If at times you think that my daughter has said or done something wrong, feel free to scold her. But handle her with love. She is very fragile. If at times she feels low, be with her. She just needs a little bit of your attention. If at times she feels sick, show her some care. It’s the medicine that works best for her. If at times she fails to fulfill a responsibility, feel free to chastise her. But empathize with her. She is still learning. Please keep her happy! I don’t mind if I don’t get to see her for months. I don’t mind if I am not able to talk to her on a daily basis. I would be more than happy if she doesn’t remember me much. But, my only motive in life has been my daughter’s happiness which is now in your hands. I beg you, please keep her happy. Dear son-in-law, these words may not mean much to you now but if you are lucky enough to father a daughter someday, you will appreciate them better when you will find every beat of your heart shouting – “Please keep her HAPPY”

I culled this from @weddingdigestnaija on IG. I bet this is how my dad felt. I saw him have mixed
emotions at my traditional wedding. Happy his baby was getting married and sad she would be leaving home. My CBM had to wipe tears and cattarh off my face during the vows. I cried hard, didn't want to leave. But God said pack your bags. When pastor says pray for your family. Since I can't stop him to ask if he means my husband or dad, mom and brother, I pray for everyone. It's a win-win for me!! More family to love and to love me. I miss my parents in ways I never knew I would. Should I feel guilty because i'm happier and feel at home in my home? :d

I'm all mushy mushy now. Thanks for reading lovers. Don't forget to leave a comment *wink* Yours in "mushyness", Anuoluwapo.

*mushy mushy = emotional
 CBM = Chief bride's maid