So someone messaged me "Hi Anu, you tweeted about aso-ebi the other day. Can you talk about that"? Yes I would talk about it but nobody should take offence o.
What can separate a Nigerian girl from the owambe behaviour. She likes to buy aso-ebi, makes the nicest style and dresses all up especially with the instagram craze. The degree of feferity in each girl however differs. Some of us after buying the materials + gele, would buy matching shoes, purse, jewellery and get an artiste for our makeup and gele. Don't forget we still contribute for the bridal shower and have our "spraying" money handy for the reception. That could cost around 50k besides transport fare, feeding and accommodation for those coming from outside town. Now you know why most people don't get wedding gifts for the couple.
I think aso-ebi is cool and I, like many other ladies, would buy even if we won't attend to show love and to avoid being tagged as haters. It's the season of weddings in my age group. Great, yea? That however comes with loads of aso-ebi which we complain about but we still end up making the same mistakes we complain about when it's our turn. These complaints are usually related to the price and choice of materials. I think it's very silly and inconsiderate to pick materials your guests would not be able to wear again just because it will make your fairytale wedding "fairer" or you want them to look a certain way, that's the definition of selfish. Everyone has something to do with their money, buying your material is an honour to you which you should appreciate and ensure they would not regret getting it. How and where is one supposed to wear aso-oke gele, french lace blouse and short aso-oke wrapper after the ceremony?
I should have been a professional bridesmaid. I've been on so many trains and, would still love to be on one or two more. Sadly i've been able to "rerock" only two of the outfits.
To whoever it may concern: Dear Sister Js, I better be a CBM to one of you. Your lovely baby sister, xoxo.
I'm of the opinion that not only should bridesmaids' dresses be useful in their closets, it should be absolutely free. It's such a big honour to you that one agreed to be on your train, one could decline, you know? In my year 3 in University, a friend was asked to be on a "big girl's" train. The dress was 25k and the very inconsiderate bride asked her to get a particular colour of shoes, purse, jewellery and brazilian hair. I felt offended on my friend's behalf. She had these items at home but I felt it was really funny in an annoying way. If you can't afford to cloth your maids, at least give them something they would love at a reasonable fee and involve them in the style selection. Don't add the money for our meals, drinks and souvenirs to your maids' or aso-ebi packages.
A special shoutout to babes picking 90k aso-ebi and to everyone who has been reading (and commenting). If you have a topic you want me to put up, holla firstname.lastname@example.org
*CBM = Chief Bride's Maid