Friday, 19 June 2015

#trustissues #spiritualsomethings

Hi bloghearts, how are you doing? I've been ruminating over a conversation I had with a couple during the week and thought to hear from you.

  1. Is trust knowing what someone can and can not do? Is it possible to trust someone a 100%? Can trust be quantified? Or is trust a "either you do or you don't", no mid-way thing? Can you trust someone on something and not on another? #trustissues
  2. If anyone should be more "spiritual" than the other in a relationship, who should it be? The hubby or wife and why? #spiritualsomethings
I don't think that, as a norm, a particular sex should be more spiritual than the other. It depends on the individuals in the relationship. I hope to read from you. Please feel free to ask loved ones and share their opinions. Thanks for reading. Have a good good weekend. Xo, Anuoluwapo.

6 comments:

Launna said...

Anuoluwapo, I don't think any person is more spiritual because they are a man or a woman... I've seen each one very strong.

As for trust, I know I can be trusted 100% so even though it's not easy, I think others can be that way too xox ♡

Tade Williams said...

Well, you could trust someone to an extent, but life (and movies) has taught me never to put all your trust in any man (or woman). You will be shocked at the things people can do. Only one worth trusting is God. You can trust God to guide your partner and help them make the right decisions.


Our society tells woman they need to be more spiritual to keep strange women away from their husbands/homes. Personally, I believe both husband and wife have to consciously work at it. The job isn't for only one of them.

Erniesha Tibs said...

Oh mami, I don't think spirituality has anything to do with gender. And as per trust, I know I am a 101% and like Launna said, even though it's not easy...there are lots of people who can be that way too...

Mami, thank you for the email. God bless you eh...and you know Ernie is always ready to listen eh...

Duru Adolphus Jnr. said...

Hmmmmnnnn... Hiya Anu... what's app what's app what's app?! heheheh the 'app' was so my Americannah phoneH can come out well well eh... **winks... now this must be cheating season oh!!! Cause literally all my BLOG gang are writing on this... saw it on like 3 blogs already.. Ehiz wrote on it on the Yoyng and Confused gang.. and now your ghen ghen own too...

First off... I know ayam kuku confused so I can't say with total detail... but to me ehn Baby mi... trust is a mutual decision.. I keep saying that if you are strong willed enough to say those scary words "I Do" to a woman... Then she deserves your respect.. Love and support... but at the same time... me ayam kuku doubting my own words... Cause I cannot be watching only 1 channel for the rest of my life (pardon my childishness please) anyway my persepcetive is that it falls to both parties to make the marriage work... and then falls to the woman to respect the woman even when he err's... Cheers Anu toh sharp ju Razor Blade lo... as usual nah... **winks... This was an apt slayer kinda post.... and the crowd goes Yyyyyyyyeeeeaaahhhh mehn...

Esquire said...

First let's look at the definition of the word Trust. English WordNet dictionary:

1. A complete confidence in a person or plan
2. Certainty based on past experience

Therefore on the above definition. Trust is knowing what someone can do and cannot do. Since its a complete confidence it means you can trust 100%. Nothing like 50% trust. That means you don't trust that person. Can't. Be quantified. Of there is a reason to have less than 100% it means there is no certainty probably based on past experience or no complete knowledge of the individual. It takes time to build trust for someone or something. Finally, yes you can trust someone on one thing and not the other because issues are handled differently.

For example I can trust that barrister Anu will keep blogging come rain or shine, but I can't trust that she will visit her LinkedIn page at least twice a week.

Esquire said...

Question 2.

Do we really have a way to measure who is more spiritual? Well I don't know sha however I will say being more spiritual is not the major concern in marriage. What I believe is that a husband is the head of the family and God has entrusted him with a wife and kids if there are any. He his responsible for the family in every way, financially, materially, spiritually etc. A woman should know the level of relationship a man has with God before she submits to him because after marriage she has to submit whether she is more spiritual than him or not. However as I said, the most important thing is for the man to have a good relationship with God and have God help me lead his family through him in the path of greatness and fulfilment.