Friday, 24 April 2015

You owe yourself

Contrary to popular opinion, nobody owes you anything. Why are you pouting because your uncle didn't send you some money, your friend didn't get you a birthday gift, your cousin didn't get something for your baby or someone didn't visit you. When last did you get something for them? Oh, you gave expecting something in return? Have you died as they got nothing for you? Would it be a crime if you decide to be a cheerful giver yourself? You have no idea what's happening with them. Be content, you're not a beggar. Stop whinning and get productive, you owe yourself a good life.

I guess you know there are some parents who are not responsible for their children? How do you explain a parent who expects her teenage/undergraduate child to support her? Yes, it is so wrong but we should not take parents, who care for, feed, cloth, protect and put us in school, for granted.

We wouldn't be so disappointed if we stopped expecting so much. It makes us more appreciative when we do get something. Hopefully, there wouldn't be any nagging around here anytime soon.
Thanks for reading bloghearts. Love, Anuoluwapo.

11 comments:

esquire said...

I totally agree. We are owe ourselves and whatever we turn out to be is in our hands.

blogoratti said...

Its a nice and positive reminder, thanks for that. Nice weekend!

Launna said...

Anuoluwapo, people need to remember this that no one owes anyone else a living... if you help out great... if not that should be fine... I love your words, true and honest xox

Anonymous said...

Nice write up, but i believe its natural to expect something from those we love (i.e those we give some form of trust and loyalty to) and we all know that to who much is given......

Myrna R. said...

You're right. It's best to be independent. Thanks for visiting my blog.

Anuoluwapo said...

I hope you understand the point I'm making. "Don't sit on your behind waiting for an uncle to make things happen for you" Ofcourse, it's expected you have reasonable expectations from certain people such as one's spouse, parent/child.

Thanks so much for this comment. Hopefully, someone would learn from it like I have

RO said...

Perfect words of wisdom! Hugs...

Christine said...

great advice!

betty said...

Thanks for visiting my blog :) I hope you do come back to hear the rest of the story about the bank :)

So true that parents don't owe their kids anything and no one should have a feeling of entitlement. Years ago a therapist told my daughter she should be grateful she has a roof over her head and clothes and food provided by us her parents, since a lot of people didn't even have that.

betty

Erniesha Tibs said...

I COMPLETELY agree!!!! People need to know this...All the crap of expecting sooooo much is so overrated these days.

Nitty-Gritty said...

I don't like the mentality of ' entitlement'. It so pisses me off!!! I know there is an obligation between parents and children but between siblings, relatives and friends it is a privilege! Between spouses it is an obligation.