I'm not particularly friends with her but I found myself being her voltron on several occasions. "Why are you speaking ill of her? She's a good girl, back off." Her crime? She had a caring boyfriend but would still collect gifts from men, young or old, rich or poor, even the ones whose wives she was acquainted with. Maybe it's because I come from a small town or because men talk too much, the news circulated. You can bet even people who do not know her helped garnish and spread the gist. I believe she didn't date any of these men but she was taking gifts, cash and enjoying the free meals. She thought she was being a smart good girl. I must add greedy to it. Note each man didn't spend up to 20/50k on her but would talk like they credit her account with 1M everyday and take her shopping every weekend.
I remember one initially saying "I got this and this for her. I took her there yesterday. I'll definitely date her" Then he changed to "That stupid girl just collected all my money. I have forgotten her". Another chose to dent her boyfriend's image. Derogatory remarks on how he couldn't control his girl, she was vain, she was above him, she was using him were passed around.
These gifts do not make one rich. Now that he bought that human hair for you, are you any better? Would you die if you don't use the latest blackberry? I don't think we should accept gifts from men. We're not even mandated to take everything our boyfriends give us. You know a guy is giving you a gift because he covets your body, you smile sheepishly and take it. You're not being smart, it's being cheap.
Thank you for reading bloghearts. It will be nice to read more from you in the new year. Do send in posts to email@example.com and I'll be glad to publish. You can also suggest topics. This post is dedicated to Karen. I didn't start writing this post until I saw your comment on the Christmas giveaway post. Much love, Anuoluwapo.
P.S. If you're in Ilorin for Christmas/New year, please get in touch.