Thursday, 14 May 2015

Love contract

What won't we hear? I read P Diddy isn't keen on marriage but cool with making a love contract. I don't know why we have refused to respect ourselves. A guy will wake up and say one nonsense and get away with it because some babes would give. If we take a stand, they would be forced to learn to respect us. We say we are not sex objects and there we are, in music videos, shaking our behinds seductively to songs that objectify us. We say men cheat and leave out the fact that they don't cheat with goats.

I don't know if I speak for other ladies but you got into a love contract with me the moment we got into a relationship. A contract to have my back, care for me, be faithful and never to divulge details about me. What else is in the yeye love contract that I don't already get from being your girlfriend? Oh right, she'll be your baby mama? Ladies, be there forming love contractor, #SideChicForever God help you if after many years, he marries another lady and leaves you hanging.

It reeks irresponsibility to me. Eating your cake and wanting it. Married but living like the boys. There is no sitting on the fence between being single and married. Marriage is not by force, if you and your woman don't believe in marriage and want to date forever, go for it. I still don't see the need for a contract. Why do you need a document to guide your affair? Shebi you don't want a real commitment. I would be very offended if my boyfriend played that card.

I love you for reading, Anuoluwapo.

10 comments:

Duru Adolphus Jnr. said...

Ooookkaaayyy Breathe Anu.. Take Deep Breaths.. heheheh Nne Eezzz neFer that serious nah! This post makes it seem like you are vexing oh! heheheheh Oh Well I guess there still is the FOI bill passed around the world, so Diddy is just maximizing his rights to speech.. I for one believe that Life is a choice.. Some believe in nature, I believe in GOD, some believe they dont need to be tied to a woman to be happy but want kids, some ladies prefer surrogacy in a bid to protect their coca-cola shape.. All in all Bubba, I guess it all boils down to choice...

Baby mi, I would like to add that there will always be Classes of women.. The one that wants a ring and the one that wants the 4 letter d word that come to your head right now, but all in all yeah.. Its better for women to live with value and prestige, cause we guys only mirror the value a woman shows to us back at her in our actions and decisions... Cheers Bubba.. ;)

esquire said...

Lol. She is obviously vexing. Well. My opinion is this. All women are not the same. Different culture, different orientation to life, different religion, some don't even believe on God, different personality, different attitude towards life in general. If you evaluate the issue of marriage and love contract and expect other women to see it the way you do, you ll d be making a very big mistake. You believe in marriage and probably one husband to one wife, some others don't mind being married as 5th wife, some others don't even want to hear the word marriage as it makes no sense to them. They just want to be called sex partners and they are happy with that. Now love contract has come up and many women will love the idea and would be happy. They don't share with your ideologies.

There are many women eve in Nigeria who are very very comfortable with just being sidechicks as you call it. They have no intention to get married. I know of a female banker in Nigeria who decided to just get pregnant for a man and keep her child but wasn't willing to tie the knot. She is very happy with her life as she claims. Some are in it for the money or fame and that's it. For example if Dbanj or Don jazzy or O.B.O or Iyanya announces today that they want just contract or they want any babe who will not mind having their baby (no marriage oh), walahi, many women will even trek for the auditioning lol. They are happy to be sex objects as you put it.

In summary, all women are not the same and will never be.

esquire said...

Sorry I forgot to add that the love contract you got into when you got into a relationship isn't official. I think thia love contract is difffernt. Some documentations may come in making it official. Lol.

blogoratti said...

Whatever works for them as a couple I guess. Beats fighting over divorce in the law courts.

Immanuel Mavin Kish said...

Great Post... I Concur with blogoratti..

www.mavinmis.com

Launna said...

Anuoluwapo... I think as women we need to expect more... not accept less. I know this isn't a popular thought but I think we as women have given up too much just to have a man. I think there are too many decent and loving men to settle for less then the best. Great post... I loved this xox ♡

Anonymous said...

I think it's immoral and ungodly as it would encourage fornication.

Nitty-Gritty said...

The dynamics of male and female relationship is unpredictable. Values and norms are changing... Albiet negatively.

Let us go down history lane, they married not out of love but for procreation and survival...hence, there were arranged marriages and polygamy.

The world evolved... education, commerce, technology, and globalization all happened. Polygamy became an expensive venture and marriage became out of love due to civilization...monogamy was accepted.

Now in the computer age we live, freedom of speech and expression is the bane of the society. It is now, I, me and myself. People worth are assessed by their bank account... So when money talks...Bull**** walks!!!

Yes! It is the man's world and will continue to be so until women will stop following the scent of money. Which is going to be a daunting task, because women wants comfort and security.

And marriage is an agreement between 2 people.And can 2 walk together, unless they agree? So if both parties involved agreed to be togetger for money, love, beauty, procreation and business merger, it is strictly between them.

Have a wonderful weekend.

Ms Lily said...

Anu is vexed. See ehn, it's their life, whatever they like they should do provided e nor effect me.

Erniesha Tibs said...

Love Contract? Is that the new way of consoling a side bitch? I am confused. So hold up, So when a man is scared of commitment, he now turns to a 'love contract'?? Grrrr...and ladies wonder why guys do things and get away with it....Mehnnnnn...