Friday, 1 May 2015

No mediocre

Hi guys, how are you doing? I'm doing very well, busy being happy. It was a special someone's birthday few hours ago. I'm still so excited and wish the day wouldn't end. Oh Happy Workers' Day, Happy New Month bloghearts.

I have noticed that a lot of us are always on our toes, not wanting to hurt our loved ones which is great but not when it has to do with the truth. We take out time to coat the truth before saying it or saying what the other person wants to hear, is that friendship? If it's only 1 friend you have, you owe her the truth. It's better not to be a friend than sucking at it. Oh yea, you can't be a perfect friend but you can choose not to be a mediocre.

If you've read some of my posts, you would know that I'm very pro-mind your business. But how will your sister or bestie put all the pancake in the world on her face and expect you to remain quiet? Or want you to be diplomatic about helping her package? Not every time diploma please. When did you become a diplomat sef? I didn't say seize the opportunity to insult her oh.

Friends, loved ones owe each other the truth. Your friend is dating a married man or your sister's boyfriend beats her blue black and you still feel the need to polish the truth? You don't love her! She can get angry if she likes, you'll make up. It's not trying to pry into her private life, you're merely stating the obvious, which she may be blind to at the moment, in plain terms. She'll do same for you. A Yoruba adage says "If 2 siblings go in for a discussion and they come out with straight faces, be sure they just told each other the truth". If you're not telling her her boyfriend cheats on her then you shouldn't be telling anyone else.

Thanks for reading. Love love, Anuoluwapo.

7 comments:

Launna said...

Anuoluwapo... Happy Happy Birthday... I hope it was a fun and happy one ♡

I too am pro-mind your own business but sometimes you have to say it like it is... lies are not good with your family and friends... sometmes the truth hurts but needs to be told.. great insight girl ♡ xox

Erniesha Tibs said...

Hey mami...Uhmmm I am confused!...Is today your birthday? Please clear my doubts eh...I am equally pro-mind your damn business and I also say it EXACTLY the way it is...I am no diplomat. If I don't like something, I say it. It is MY prerogative and NOBODY is at liberty to change that. That being said, even though I mind my business, if you come around me looking like you fell into a make-up river, I will tell it to you straight up.

Naija Bachelor said...

It's funny how people can be pro-mind your own business when it comes to friends. I have very few people I truly see as friends and the minute I chose to develop that kind of relationship with them, I invited them to mind my business all they want. These are the people who hold me accountable on daily basis and it's difficult for them to do their jobs (yes, I said jobs) if they are not allowed to mind my business.

In a nutshell, if I am to call myself your friend, them I have to be all up in your business. Its in the job description.

Anuoluwapo said...

Thanks guys. It was my dad's birthday

Calabar Gal said...

HOPE YOU ARE ENJOYING YOUR HOLIDAY. TACT IS THE KEY......

Duru Adolphus Jnr. said...

Hehehheheheheheh no be small every time diplomat oh... You know yeah Bubba, life is simple oh... Do unto others what you would want them to do to you.. Dasalll... i for one have little or no friend so i believe in being my own very best or worse critic... But if you love someboRRy ehn... then chukking the truth inside sugar just to come and go and make them feel happier isnt the way forward... say it as it is no matter whose ox is gored... as long as it helps them grow.... and the crowd goes... Oooosssshhheeey Turn uP! Nice one Bubba.. This was a ghen ghen read.. **wears cheeky smile...

Nitty-Gritty said...

When it comes to my immediate family and siblings I am not pro-mind your business. I love and care, so I will talk. We would know how to settle ourselves.

But a friend, neighbor, colleague, I will tread with caution, so it does not come back to bite me! Or be called envious. Because, when you tell them, they will call you hater!!! As long as my opinion is not asked, I will padlock my mouth.