Thursday, 30 October 2014

My boo isn't your play thing

I live in a part of the country where we're still cultured and conservative to an extent. A friend was fuming the other day because her friend calls her hubby, who is way older than both of them, by his first name.

Call me bush but I very much agree with her. This is a man whose youngest sibling can birth the wife. It's this same man you choose to call Dayo. Just like that? You don't have to call him Uncle, which may sound funny. I'm sure there's always a substitute. Someone calls her friends' men "sweetheart/oko ore mi." I don't have energy for wahala or anyone misinterpreting so I use "Mr" in an unawkward way.

Even if you're older than your friend's hubby or serious bobo, you show love for their relationship by respecting the guy. You respected her dad? He is almost in charge of her now. Don't you see your friend honouring her man? This is one of the reasons you shouldn't bad mouth or treat your man poorly. Stop sharing his flaws with your bestie. Why isn't your man your bestie though?

You can't be friends with hubby and i. You can not be calling or texting him. Why is he on your bbm again? Need to reach him? You should be going through me. I'm not saying he shouldn't have female friends. I'm saying the female friend isn't you. I honestly don't see the need to call to say hello or both of you chatting on social networks? Are you planning a surprise for me? Else, I should be the middle man. It's not that I don't trust you but if you don't respect my relationship and man, you aren't my friend afterall.

The girls' that put their bobos down to be buying sharwama and taking their friends out ehn. All those "Dayo, won't you take me out?" Imagine your mom's friend saying that to your dad. Are we not on our way there? Don't bring stories that touch about how they talk to your boo anyhow, table his matter, turned him into their maga or how they are loving up now. You exposed him and his flaws to them.

Again I say it's not trust issues. It's preventing the principle of see finish, familiarity breeds contempt. Don't wait till you're married before you start treating him/her, like a special part of you. Don't forget how majority see you treat him/talk about her is how they treat him. Thanks for reading my opinion again blogheart. Got a differing one? Let's hear it. Love love, Anuoluwapo.


14 comments:

Ire said...

Yes o, my man isn't your play ting at all. No unnecessary talks and touching

Anuoluwapo said...

Lol Madam, were you waiting for this topic

Anonymous said...

The babe has more to do in this respect, she must ensure that her man is not disrespected by her friends.

Riike said...

Preach!!

Anuoluwapo said...

You're right. Same goes for the guy

Anuoluwapo said...

:D

Anonymous said...

Mrs Toki, I support all you have said o. My boo and I keep arguing over the fact that I call his friends "Mr". They are all older than my dad's first child o. Infact some of this friends of his don't answer to my call if I call Mr. Now it isn't me that is the problem. Its them.

Anonymous said...

Mrs Toki, I support all you have said o. My boo and I keep arguing over the fact that I call his friends "Mr". They are all older than my dad's first child o. Infact some of this friends of his don't answer to my call if I call Mr. Now it isn't me that is the problem. Its them.

OluTaYoMii said...

I think some men like mine are more comfortable with first name basis, however, that my friend call him by his first name don't give them license to disrespect him.

Eniwealth said...

Well said Anu. The idea of keeping it all in is a work in progress for me, even though already I'm 90% in on relationship matters, yet I want to be 100%. The ten sef, na unto serious persuasion as a result of friends nagging me down how much they have opened up on theirs to me. Then they go, ''babe, na wa o!'' 100? I shall still go, so help me God.

Anuoluwapo said...

Lol! Nobody is the problem. Thank you. :*

Anuoluwapo said...

I'm sure that's very possible but I still won't call him by his first name :p Thanks bae

yemi ijeoma said...

You are so right.

yemi ijeoma said...

I totally agree with you. Some so called friends can be absolutely disrespectful. It's best to always draw the line.