The bile in your tummy

Some people need help, mental help. If seeing someone doing well gives you sleepless nights or fills your tummy with bile, you need urgent help. Some people would rather be the local champion, doling out a few pennies to people around. If that's your definition of life, you're messed you. There is so much room at the top, the more the merrier. If you have fun/vacation alone, you're not rich. There is nothing like telling friends/siblings "Babes, let's hit Maldives for Christmas" and you can all afford to go. Wealth is not transmitted sexually or on the basis of friendship. But you can support/encourage your friend, carry him alone, pray for her. You should not only be concerned about your welfare and that of your immediate family.

A yoruba adage "Bi'su Eni ba ta, eyan maa f'owo bo je ni" translates stop showing off on instagram. Lol. Stop flaunting and feeling like you've arrived. You're rich and we thank God but please do away with your "poverty" mentality. Keep a level head and most of your successes to yourself. Live in moderation. You can afford a private jet don't mean you should get one. The heart of man is terribly wicked. They cool with you when you're just getting by. They love encouraging you about how things would get better.  Once your hammer, they smile at you, ask for help from you, get offended if you can't help/help fully. They don't understand that you have a lot on your shoulders at the moment. They forget how you've helped before. Some would be too arrogant to ask for help. Some are richer than you are but don't want you to get to their level. Someone would testify in church and you would hear another hiss "Is she the first person?" Would you die if you keep your private life/earnings private. #Codeyourself.

If you're not doing so well. Keep trying and praying. Ask for help reasonably, where need be. Asking for money to buy a car or sound system is far from reasonable. Be happy for people and wish them well. Another's downfall shouldn't put a smile on your face.

This post was birth from Africa Magic + the LIB saga. Linda's blog is back up but it's much more difficult for people to bounce back up after being hacked down by frenemies. Have you noticed that strangers either don't have an opinion or are supportive. It's the supposed loved ones that lose their peace. My bloghearts, thank you for reading. Xo, Anuoluwapo