Wednesday, 3 September 2014

My male bestie

We make it hard not to judge no thanks to the stupid mistakes we make. It's those of us with stories that touch that amuse me. These stories are more prevalent amongst women.. We open our eyes wide while we pour in pepper. We cry and send stories to SDK.

"We're so much in love. He wishes he could leave his wife but has to stay for the sake of their 4 kids." "I thought marriage would make him stop beating me." "I thought having a baby would make him marry me." "I loved him so much and prayed for a miracle. I married my AS guy, we have 3 SS babies and I'm not sure I still love him" "I didn't know we'll be serious. Now we're madly in love and my father won't let me marry outside my religion." 

These are situations we clearly blindly put ourselves into only to tell stories later. We take our stories to our moms, sisters and trusted girlfriends, which is understandable. We may not even tell them because we don't want to be judged or we had been warned. The annoying part is telling these stories to someone else's bobo. Why should he be the shoulder for you to cry on? Why must you use his handkerchief? That's how you'll have another story to tell. You better take your stories to Jesus because girlfriends are not smiling again. Really, would you be pleased if some chic turns your guy into a cheap therapist?

Some girls' besties have to be guys who happen to be other babes' boyfriends. And they proudly gloat "Bayo is my best friend and there is nothing I can't tell him." Isn't that so Primary School?  Seriously? What is it that you two talk about? Your menstrual cycle? How do you think your (intending) boyfriend would feel about this arrangement? That means a man other than your spouse would be your bestie? A guy would meet and start dating a babe and Aunty would be giving her the "I'm his bestie card" Jonzer! Think about it. This "best friendship" suits single folks and may come between you and happy relationships.

I do not think it is possible for 2 persons of the opposite sex to get very close, hang out indoors and outdoors, share secrets,  and one of them not catching feelings. I stand to be corrected. You smile at and give a girl serious attention/compliments and she's catching feelings. Same goes for the guys. Talkless of giving the "bestie" attention. Friendzone is a lie or can you undress before him? He must be a very dull gentleman. I didn't say pounce on your female friends o. But it's only natural for your body to respond. You may control it but one day na one day...

I do get that something may come up and it's this male friend that would understand but then he is just a friend, a dear friend if you like. Not that you'll call or message him all the time about everything. The girls gossip gist is so stale. Men don't? If no girl is deserving of you, keep your secrets to yourself, abi?

Thank you for reading bloghearts and thanks for sharing the blog. Xo, Anuoluwapo.

*SDK = Stella Dimoko Korkus' blog




15 comments:

beautybyduvy said...

Nice write up dear

Anonymous said...

You just subbed me o Anu

Anuoluwapo said...

Thank you

Anuoluwapo said...

Lol, i'm sorry

Ife said...

Don't mind them. Bestie Ko, bestie ni

Anuoluwapo said...

Lol, thanks

Eniwealth said...

I feel having close friends of the opposite sex is only okay when you're both single. And there's really no way one of you wouldn't ''catch feelings'' like Anu said. Good for you two if you both catch the feelings and are willing to fill the void the feelings you caught has created.
I hear we have something called friends with BENEFITS. You know the rest of the story.

Anuoluwapo said...

Catching feelings together would be really nice

Esquire said...

Its perfect to know that your best friend should be your spouse for those who are married however its important to note that believe in the above but however some married folks still other very close friends of the opposite sex some not out of thier making. For example a married man who works in the same dept with a married lady eg in a bank could get very close and probably begin to have feelings for each other. it is important to note that they spend more time at work than they spend at home with thier spouses.

Caution is advised in this regard.

Anonymous said...

Whatever happened to ' cast all ur burden upon christ?' 4get d bestie stuff abeg, guys don't think like women do and most guys will see d closeness as half chance, pounce on it....d rest is story. Very good post Anu. Love it!

Anuoluwapo said...

Thank you

Anuoluwapo said...

Thank you

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Thank you

charly said...

i dnt knw u bt ur write ups r very entertaining...all those looking for besties shud go get a dog...dogs r man's bestfriends nd nt pple's spouses

Anuoluwapo said...

Thank you