We make it hard not to judge no thanks to the stupid mistakes we make. It's those of us with stories that touch that amuse me. These stories are more prevalent amongst women.. We open our eyes wide while we pour in pepper. We cry and send stories to SDK.
"We're so much in love. He wishes he could leave his wife but has to stay for the sake of their 4 kids." "I thought marriage would make him stop beating me." "I thought having a baby would make him marry me." "I loved him so much and prayed for a miracle. I married my AS guy, we have 3 SS babies and I'm not sure I still love him" "I didn't know we'll be serious. Now we're madly in love and my father won't let me marry outside my religion."
These are situations we clearly blindly put ourselves into only to tell stories later. We take our stories to our moms, sisters and trusted girlfriends, which is understandable. We may not even tell them because we don't want to be judged or we had been warned. The annoying part is telling these stories to someone else's bobo. Why should he be the shoulder for you to cry on? Why must you use his handkerchief? That's how you'll have another story to tell. You better take your stories to Jesus because girlfriends are not smiling again. Really, would you be pleased if some chic turns your guy into a cheap therapist?
Some girls' besties have to be guys who happen to be other babes' boyfriends. And they proudly gloat "Bayo is my best friend and there is nothing I can't tell him." Isn't that so Primary School? Seriously? What is it that you two talk about? Your menstrual cycle? How do you think your (intending) boyfriend would feel about this arrangement? That means a man other than your spouse would be your bestie? A guy would meet and start dating a babe and Aunty would be giving her the "I'm his bestie card" Jonzer! Think about it. This "best friendship" suits single folks and may come between you and happy relationships.
I do not think it is possible for 2 persons of the opposite sex to get very close, hang out indoors and outdoors, share secrets, and one of them not catching feelings. I stand to be corrected. You smile at and give a girl serious attention/compliments and she's catching feelings. Same goes for the guys. Talkless of giving the "bestie" attention. Friendzone is a lie or can you undress before him? He must be a very dull gentleman. I didn't say pounce on your female friends o. But it's only natural for your body to respond. You may control it but one day na one day...
I do get that something may come up and it's this male friend that would understand but then he is just a friend, a dear friend if you like. Not that you'll call or message him all the time about everything. The girls gossip gist is so stale. Men don't? If no girl is deserving of you, keep your secrets to yourself, abi?
Thank you for reading bloghearts and thanks for sharing the blog. Xo, Anuoluwapo.
*SDK = Stella Dimoko Korkus' blog