Tuesday, 9 September 2014

UPDATED: Spouse or child?

Someone recently asked me who comes first, spouse or child? I know that the spouse and the child have different roles to play and you love them differently but then the spouse comes first. It's only recently that pregnancy or a baby comes into the picture before a spouse does. A spouse also stays in the picture longer than a baby. I understand that the child gets more attention than the spouse at a stage and that's because babies need attention. You only have your child with you for about 21years before he leaves your protection to start his life and would often see your calls and attention as bugging his life.

The argument that your child is your flesh and blood unlike your spouse is total crap. Your spouse is your flesh and blood, your other half, you! Can half a car operate without it's other half? Well, maybe yes but not to it's full potential. Same goes for you. You may live a good and seemingly happy life with the kids and away from your spouse but you wouldn't fully reach your potential. The day you were joined in holy matrimony you became one, blood and flesh. It takes only death to separate blood and flesh. Even the law deems you as one. On your child's naming or on the day you registered her birth, did anyone join you? That being said, you shouldn't let the kids come between you. Your child will also leave you to be one with another.

It may be easy for me to say now but I believe it's the truth. It's women who are ignorant of these that hold on to their sons and make their daughters in law's lives unbearable. And the people that allow their folks disrespect their spouses? God is watching you in 4D. Stop the nonsense you say on twitter, your wife comes before any and everyone, even your momma. Don't become boring or lose interest in your hubby because a baby, who is just a phase, arrived.

UPDATE: Besides children are gifts from God and not the essence of marriage. Eve was created mainly because God didn't think it proper for Adam to be alone. So tell me why kids should come before God and companionship?

Sorry I didn't post yesterday. I was tired and my network provider wasn't pleased with my face. I do need you to send me topics I can write on. You can also write and send in your posts to be put up. Thank you for always coming back. Xo, Anuoluwapo.
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13 comments:

Eniwealth said...

Another truth. Well done Anu.

Ire said...

Well written

Anonymous said...

I quiet agree with u,Buh sometimes,I think women divert dere attention coz d guy changed during pregnancy or coz of wah dey xperienced during child birth,my opinion is both syds av to be supportive of each oda,no mata d stage,dt way,none of dem feels neglected at any point,I mean d spouse...Olorilaw2

Anuoluwapo said...

Thank you :*

Anuoluwapo said...

Thank you

Anuoluwapo said...

You're right

Anuoluwapo said...

You're right, thanks babes

Anonymous said...

You be sabi babe

Esquire said...

100% correct. On point ma. Your network provider was not pleased with your pretty face??? Is he high on cheap drugs? egbami! if we had the same network provider, hmmm, with my kind of face, i am sure i wont smell network for the next 1year.

Anonymous said...

it's a triangle, u need d 3 points to keep it so. However, d bond that d parents share should not be broken just cos u have kids. Parents share a special bond with their kids too so it'll b selfish to have to choose sides. U think d kids won't see how u like them more than their dad or mum? They will & they'll carry it on wen they marry & hv problems with their spouses. Anu has done justice to this, gud work!

Anuoluwapo said...

Lol, thanks

Anuoluwapo said...

Lol, thank you

Anuoluwapo said...

Thank you