Friday 7 November 2014

My love language

Each person has a love language we must learn to "speak" if we want that person to feel loved, whether or not we agree with them. Here are the main 6 love languages:
  1. Acts of service: This seems to be the most important love language to me. Stop telling me you love me, act the part already. Actions speak louder than words, yeah? The blind can "see" it and the deaf can "hear" it. It's being kind, attentive and helpful.
  2. Gifts: Who doesn't love gifts? They can say "I love you" loud and clear. Good part is you don't have to get a loan or clear your account. A pair of earrings/socks, scarf,..., with a note that reads "I saw this dress and imagined how beautiful you'll make it look." It could be a card or a letter from your heart.
  3. Quality time: Spending time with and killing bae with attention. You need to know how much attention your partner loves. Some want it all day, all year. They want frequent calls in a day, to be on your dp like it's their phone, throw tantrums or sulk if they don't get the attention for a few hours. While some want it but would also appreciate their "me time."
  4. Words of affirmation could be compliments or spoken appreciation. If this is your partner's love language, watch life sprout in your relationship as you speak it.
  5. Physical touch includes touching the shoulders, holding hands, kissing, massages, sex... This may be the language that makes your partner feel wanted, special and loved.
  6. Food: The way to a man's heart is through the  stomach. Treat your woman to breakfast in bed or have her watch her favourite show while you make dinner. She'll thank God for making you hers if it's her love language.
Thank you for reading. Much love, Anuoluwapo

13 comments:

Anonymous said...

You never seem to amaze me. Well done

Eniwealth said...

I'm 10/10 on all except quality time. My last relationship made me realize that. Was boo* used to call TOO much that I got tired of his voice in no time. I always had my ears plugged, through the drive home from work, sometimes to the office in the morning sef, he knew a few of my colleagues by their voice. It became too annoying. The few times I made my opinion on the excessive calls known, he said since it's a long distance relationship, communication is key, to which I agree. But, na like this one? Shuo! If I missed a call, I would have to give a detailed explanation for why, what I was doing, who was there, how it happened and so on.
I give gifts a lot. No matter how little.
I like cuddling too, until either of us is becoming uncomfortable.

Anuoluwapo said...

I'm so with you. Say no to pests, stalkers and leeches

Anonymous said...

Nice piece Anu. Do write piece about the ever changing moods of women and how to,figure them out soon.

Anonymous said...

My love language is money :d

Anuoluwapo said...

Thank you

Anuoluwapo said...

Okay, thank you

Anuoluwapo said...

Lol

Riike said...

Love this

Anonymous said...

I wish the future hubby could read this and practice it! Lol

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Anuoluwapo said...

You could bring him here. Thank you

Unknown said...

Hubby is reading this, my love language is attention and affirmation, nothing too demanding, nyc piece as always

Anuoluwapo said...

Thank you Sisi mommy