Sunday, 22 June 2014

Bedmatics 101

"I totally agree with Esquire's post even though I am a woman. All four points highlighted here are ''very'' basic and to a very large extent are for the good of the woman who is characterized by all of these four qualities. If you will please permit me to start a discussion on your ''post - in - post'' Anu and Esquire. I'd like to ask/know your opinions on sourcing for more knowledge on how to improve in ''bedmatics''. Cos very recently, I was scrolling through a sister's phone and found some ''erotic'' pictures and video, when I asked her why she now has such on her phone, she simply said, ''I'm now married nah, how I for do''. So I simply kept quiet. So like, probably practicing more on culinary skills, studying for professional courses, ensuring that the kids attend Sunday school, making my book of bible stories their bed time story book among other things one can do to improve on the four points Esquire highlighted above. Is sourcing the internet, buying cds and so on to improve on ''bedmatics'' inappropriate?" This was Eniwealth's comment here Please feel free to leave your contributions in the comment section, thank you.

There is nothing clear and concise about pornography in the Bible. So learning "bedmatics" from pornography is left to individual understanding and conviction. I hope you realise that porn is make believe, a very scripted movie. The actors do what they are asked to do infront of a bunch of people. They get breaks in between and aren't always comfortable. It isn't realistic to want to make a replica of what these people do. Isn't love making supposed to be comfortable? They aren't even making love, they are working.

If we decide to leave God out of it, morality and society frowns against it. If the custom and tradition of your place encourages it, kindly enlighten us. Can you proudly say, in public, that you are a porn star or that you watch porn? Will you be proud to be associated with a porn star? If you answered "no" to the questions, you shouldn't be watching porn.

Porn encourages incest, fornication, adultery, rape, homosexuality, beastility and orgies in their story lines. Like I said earlier, it is drama and follows a story line. A married teacher and her underage student (that's adultery for her and fornication for the boy), a boy and his father's wife (incest), a girl gets gang raped on the bus (later we wonder what is wrong with the perverse men in India), couple of guys and girls have a sex party (orgy), a girl and a horse (beastility), a man and a man, fetishes, etc. If you're watching any of these, you're saying yes to it. Yes to what God says no to. See 1Corinthians 6:9,18, 5:1, Hebrews 13:4, Leviticus 18:6-18,23, 20:15-16, Exodus 22:19, 25-29, Deuteronomy 27:21, Galatians 5:21,...
The Bible says lusting after a person you're not married to is sin. So you're either fornicating or committing adultery by getting turned on when watching (or thinking about porn). Matthew 5:28, 1 Corinthians 7:2.

It attracts some demons to one's life. Heard about incubus, succubus and spirit spouses? There are several ways of attracting them which include porn, sexual sins, deliberate actions (believe it or not, there are guides online on how to have a sex demon), third party's action, indecent dressing (indecency attracts them like it does to regular guys) and beauty (demons sabi better too). There is a spirit behind porn addiction. Addicts start innocently before they get hooked. Some people say they have sex dreams after watching porn. Why give room to the devil?

I am therefore of the opinion that pornography is not the will of God for our lives. Porn is never the answer. I think you can learn from your experience, experimenting, your partner, healthy books and websites like Every Woman, Pre-marital counselling, seminars (even in church!), sex therapists, female groups (ladies fellowship), parents, siblings and close friends. A discussion filled with tips is going on in a group of mature Godly women on a post on Babes' Redefined's facebook page. You should join the group for Godly counsel and fun. Finally, he married you because he loves you. If sex was number 1, he would have married a prostitute.

Thanks for reading again. Adenike has graciously accepted to entertain questions on natural human hair. Please get your questions to me as soon as possible. We'll also get a "what a lady wants" naija style soon. Here are some of the verses I mentioned in my anti-pornography talk. You can look the others up. Xoxo.

*1Cor 6:18 "Flee from fornication. Every sin that a man will do is apart from his body, but whoever fornicates sins with his body."

1Cor 6:9 "You know that wicked people will not inherit the kingdom of God, don't you? Stop deceiving yourselves! Sexually immoral people, idolaters, adulterers, male prostitutes, homosexuals,"

Galatians 5:21 "envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God."

Matthew 5:28 "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."

Leviticus 18:6 "You must never have sexual relations with a close relative, for I am the LORD."

Deuteronomy 27:21 "The one who has sexual intercourse with any animal is cursed.' And all the people will say, 'Amen!' "
 
 

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

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Anonymous said...

Love the 'twist' u put into ur blog. Love it! U have chosen to do different from d others, its a risk that has paid off. U'll go places match my words.

Anuoluwapo said...

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Anuoluwapo said...

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Eniwealth said...

Thank you Anu. I had to drop the discussion after her reason was tagged to an institution I'm yet to be part off, but deep down in me, I knew it was wrong and her reason does not justify her being in possession of such pictures and video.

Duru Adolphus Jnr. said...

hmmmmnnn... Okay, ehmmm i am Young and Confused, but i will say it from my heart. I like that you attacked this topic from a religious perspective, and that Pornography is a SIN, is in all sincerity the TRUTH. But writing from the perspective of a Young and Confused 23 year old, I have to say that Pornography is as good as it is wrong. Think about it Bubba, in all sincerity how many people of you ladies have the time to sit and attend marriage counsels as to how to satisfy your husbands? Do they show in details what to do? How many have the time to read through scripted articles? I mean I broke up with my lady barely 2 months ago, and the loneliness i feel most nights is crazy and lemme not lie, i even saw porn yesterday. I am not saying it is justified, but I believe it complements to reduce cravings cause at a time you watching it feels useless and turns the dang thing off. About married couples indulging in Pornography.. Bubba i support it oh! It helps arousal and in a way turns people on.. I wish you understood that all those moanings which those crazy ladies make that most ladies in real life see as fake does magic in a guys head and body... All in all, i think it all boils down to choice.. Plus what reasonable person watches Homosexual or beasties porn?!

P.S: I admit that Pornography is a sin, but this comment is drawn from the mind of a Young and Confused 23 year old that is far from perfect. Cheers Bubba. I like the sincerity with which you write, and your readiness to tackle just any topic, it is rather endearing...

Anuoluwapo said...

:* Thank you

Anuoluwapo said...

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