"I totally agree with Esquire's post even though I am a woman. All four points highlighted here are ''very'' basic and to a very large extent are for the good of the woman who is characterized by all of these four qualities. If you will please permit me to start a discussion on your ''post - in - post'' Anu and Esquire. I'd like to ask/know your opinions on sourcing for more knowledge on how to improve in ''bedmatics''. Cos very recently, I was scrolling through a sister's phone and found some ''erotic'' pictures and video, when I asked her why she now has such on her phone, she simply said, ''I'm now married nah, how I for do''. So I simply kept quiet. So like, probably practicing more on culinary skills, studying for professional courses, ensuring that the kids attend Sunday school, making my book of bible stories their bed time story book among other things one can do to improve on the four points Esquire highlighted above. Is sourcing the internet, buying cds and so on to improve on ''bedmatics'' inappropriate?" This was Eniwealth's comment here Please feel free to leave your contributions in the comment section, thank you.
There is nothing clear and concise about pornography in the Bible. So learning "bedmatics" from pornography is left to individual understanding and conviction. I hope you realise that porn is make believe, a very scripted movie. The actors do what they are asked to do infront of a bunch of people. They get breaks in between and aren't always comfortable. It isn't realistic to want to make a replica of what these people do. Isn't love making supposed to be comfortable? They aren't even making love, they are working.
If we decide to leave God out of it, morality and society frowns against it. If the custom and tradition of your place encourages it, kindly enlighten us. Can you proudly say, in public, that you are a porn star or that you watch porn? Will you be proud to be associated with a porn star? If you answered "no" to the questions, you shouldn't be watching porn.
Porn encourages incest, fornication, adultery, rape, homosexuality, beastility and orgies in their story lines. Like I said earlier, it is drama and follows a story line. A married teacher and her underage student (that's adultery for her and fornication for the boy), a boy and his father's wife (incest), a girl gets gang raped on the bus (later we wonder what is wrong with the perverse men in India), couple of guys and girls have a sex party (orgy), a girl and a horse (beastility), a man and a man, fetishes, etc. If you're watching any of these, you're saying yes to it. Yes to what God says no to. See 1Corinthians 6:9,18, 5:1, Hebrews 13:4, Leviticus 18:6-18,23, 20:15-16, Exodus 22:19, 25-29, Deuteronomy 27:21, Galatians 5:21,...
The Bible says lusting after a person you're not married to is sin. So you're either fornicating or committing adultery by getting turned on when watching (or thinking about porn). Matthew 5:28, 1 Corinthians 7:2.
It attracts some demons to one's life. Heard about incubus, succubus and spirit spouses? There are several ways of attracting them which include porn, sexual sins, deliberate actions (believe it or not, there are guides online on how to have a sex demon), third party's action, indecent dressing (indecency attracts them like it does to regular guys) and beauty (demons sabi better too). There is a spirit behind porn addiction. Addicts start innocently before they get hooked. Some people say they have sex dreams after watching porn. Why give room to the devil?
I am therefore of the opinion that pornography is not the will of God for our lives. Porn is never the answer. I think you can learn from your experience, experimenting, your partner, healthy books and websites like Every Woman, Pre-marital counselling, seminars (even in church!), sex therapists, female groups (ladies fellowship), parents, siblings and close friends. A discussion filled with tips is going on in a group of mature Godly women on a post on Babes' Redefined's facebook page. You should join the group for Godly counsel and fun. Finally, he married you because he loves you. If sex was number 1, he would have married a prostitute.
Thanks for reading again. Adenike has graciously accepted to entertain questions on natural human hair. Please get your questions to me as soon as possible. We'll also get a "what a lady wants" naija style soon. Here are some of the verses I mentioned in my anti-pornography talk. You can look the others up. Xoxo.
*1Cor 6:18 "Flee from fornication. Every sin that a man will do is apart from his body, but whoever fornicates sins with his body."
1Cor 6:9 "You know that wicked people will not inherit the kingdom of God, don't you? Stop deceiving yourselves! Sexually immoral people, idolaters, adulterers, male prostitutes, homosexuals,"
Galatians 5:21 "envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God."
Matthew 5:28 "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."
Leviticus 18:6 "You must never have sexual relations with a close relative, for I am the LORD."
Deuteronomy 27:21 "The one who has sexual intercourse with any animal is cursed.' And all the people will say, 'Amen!' "