Tuesday, 24 June 2014

Prove to me that you want it - my love

My rant was inspired by a tweet I saw yesterday. Only a boy can think and have the nerves to say/tweet "Will never propose to any girl on a knee. No time to design some elaborate scheme to surprise anyone. Too busy." How dare you? What/who exactly do you think you are? Is it the babe you want to marry that is anyone? You think you can marry with that lousy attitude? Are you a meal? Why so full of yourself? Take it to the bank, only a girl will marry you. Ladies are not desperate. Remember Aunty Karma may be visiting your sister, daughter and granddaughter?
We are so quick to "worship" and make men feel too special. He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord. Is it your ticket to favour you're too busy to do something special for? What do you do again? Obama is one of the most powerful men in the world, if not number 1. Do you see/sense that he acts in such a lousy manner or treat his wife with disdain? Dear ladies, assess Michelle Obama, does she seem desperate? One a man can toss around? We don't understand our worth. Help mates fit for them. They can not live fulfilling lives without us. Do we need help mates? No! Are they a channel of favour for us? It's not said. They marry us, we change our names and signatures, become cooks, housekeepers, personal assistants, confidants, motivators, prayer warriors, carry pregnancies, go through labour, sleepless nights, ruined bodies,... And you say you're too busy to go out of your way for her? A man that is too busy now to design some elaborate scheme to surprise anyone will not put in any effort to make make you happy or please you. Kudos to the amazing men that not only love their women but appreciate and help them.
I'm not saying we should start forming independent women. I'm saying let's be wise and sure before we start looking at wedding dresses. It's not easy to be submissive, especially not to a guy that has no respect for you and can not go out of his way for you. The ladies whose men cherish do not have two heads. If he can not cherish you, you should not be with him. Do you want to live with an egocentric, brutish, lousy and immature man for the rest of your life? If you accept it now, it will become a norm in your life. Don't get me wrong. It's not just about the proposal. I did not have a fancy proposal abi do you know my proposal story? This is about not being desperate to settle with just any guy. This is about teaching men to respect women. Don't mind when married folks coo about their partners, it isn't always smiles. Mutual respect, amongst other things, is what keeps you happy.  I hope you know there are men who believe their women are slaves. Have you seen Mr and Mrs? Hardly is any lady fortunate enough to have her story ending beautifully like that.
We are help-mates not slaves. We will help but we deserve love, peace, respect,... to make helping beautiful and easy. Please my darling, don't have unrealistic standards and don't settle for a lousy undeserving guy that would frustrate you.
Thank you for reading again today. It's "What a girl wants - naija style" tomorrow. Much love.




16 comments:

kenturah said...

Makes sense,as always. Keep up d gud work.

kenturah said...

Makes sense,as always. Keep up d gud work.

don said...

One word for the guy...He lacks understanding but i hope he will know better someday.

Esquire said...

Excellent Piece. I would like to ask a question. Maybe other blog readers can also contribute. How would you really know when a guy is just acting up just because he wants to get you to marry him? eg. a Guy cherishes you, respects you, honours you, is everywhere for you, makes you feel like a semi god before his friends and the public, even gives u most fanciful proposal (probably better than Kim K got)lol and marries you only to end up the exact opposite after marriage.

Anuoluwapo said...

Amen! Thank you

Anuoluwapo said...

Thank you

Eniwealth said...

Can't blame the guy that tweeted that. A lot of ladies out there have stooped so low out of desperation of their desire to be hooked by just any ma. I'm certain he will find a girl who wouldn't mind and probably create a grand proposal story to tell everyone that cares to listen of how very romantically, her boo popped the question falling from an airplane.

Anuoluwapo said...

This is probably a post for another day. 2 hints, 1. Look at the way he treats others. He shouldn't be a gentleman to you and disrespect other ladies. 2. God never deceives. Go through him. Thank you

Anuoluwapo said...

Spot on! Thanks bae. Been trying to reach you

damilola iranloye said...

Another awesome post, I dare say that the guy hasn't seen his good woman, when he does, all the nonsense talk will fly away n probably be on both knees

damilola iranloye said...

Another awesome post, I dare say that the guy hasn't seen his good woman, when he does, all the nonsense talk will fly away n probably be on both knees

Anuoluwapo said...

True that. Thank you Dami

Eniwealth said...

Might I add that often the way a "man" relates with people in the lower class is his true nature. Say bartender, gatemen, beggars, cleaners, maids etc. By man here, I mean women as well. I'm sure that amidst all the tripping trips she was too overwhelmed to have noticed some of these things. Watch out!

Eniwealth said...

Might I add that often the way a "man" relates with people in the lower class is his true nature. Say bartender, gatemen, beggars, cleaners, maids etc. By man here, I mean women as well. I'm sure that amidst all the tripping trips she was too overwhelmed to have noticed some of these things. Watch out!

Anuoluwapo said...

On point. Thanks bae

Esquire said...

Cool. Thanks