Monday, 23 June 2014
That mistake I made
Blog reader, Dr Lini, wrote in from Lagos. Please take your time to digest this very deep piece. Thank you.
Mistakes in life are imminent, unavoidable, untimely and unpredictable. We however experience it in different measures, ways and disposition. I consider and have two viewpoints of mistakes in life. A good mistake would be termed such if such gives the opportunity for amendment and it is not simply the "one mistake too many".
It is a known fact that learning from people's experiences has been adjudged better by far, I agree with that honestly! but only on issues that have great consequences. The saying the taste of the pudding is in the mouth is also not to be neglected, another person's experience cannot and would not adequately fit into yours, simply because you are a separate entity and therefore your approach to life differs.
A bad mistake is a case of two wrongs not making a right. The mistake itself is bad enough and it becomes worse when the mistake is irreparable and tends to utter regrets in destruction. A mistake in which the victim cannot come out from and celebrate triumph and look back in retrospect and be happy he made it, is a bad one.
However good or bad a mistake is, it is one of the attributes of being human. The greatest deceit is self deception. To deceive ourselves is to say we haven't made one before, or to think we are beyond making one. The only one above board on mistakes is the almighty God.
A problem defined is a problem half way solved. If by design we fall victim of certain mistakes then we should realize these facts.We are human with limitations, we are not designed to be above mistakes, it could be a good one, that some so called mistakes have been the greatest inventions, and even inventors, and lastly that God allowed it, with whom there is no mistake.
This one thing should be guarded against, making the MISTAKE of seeing suicide as a solution to a mistake. That in Itself is the only Giant MISTAKE never to be considered not alone made. The brighter life often come out of mistakes and amendment. Who knows if the first time gold was purified better with fire, was a mistake! Let us all see Mistake as a part of life that gives us the challenge to do even better. Mistake is only a bump on a route, it is the destination that matters.
In conclusion i quote DR Lini who says blessed are those who have their mistakes in life come early, for to them there is a chance to redefine. You are not alone. Forget your mistakes and get your grooves back!
Thank you very much Dr Lini. Everyone makes mistakes and suicide is never an option. You can learn and make good out of your mistakes but don't let it define you. Shina Peters should have been ashamed of himself when seemingly the whole world mocked him for wishing someone "a soonest RECOVER". He went ahead to make a hit from his mistake. How about Kim Kardashian? *lips sealed* Our own Pastor Benny Hinn also divorced his wife, Suzanne but they got back with a bang 3years after. They learnt and made good their mistakes. When people make mistake, rather than metamorphise into a judge (without even studying law ehn), learn from their mistakes and provide succour for them. The first girl to share her nudes probably didn't know what could come out of it. We saw her mistake and judged. Maybe if we had learnt from it, provided succour for her and educated ourselves in love, no girl will make that mistake again. It's not time to cheer and jeer when a couple is going through a messy/bad time. If you want an exciting drama, go catch a movie. Someone's pain should never excite us. We laugh at someone that has certain issues, don't you have a relative or friend that has similar issues. Don't we have our own issues sef? We know how to protect us and ours. Let me stop here before my closing prayer would turn to a revival.lol. Thank you so much Dr Lini. I love this topic.