I had always been my bestie and I don't think anyone ever considered me her bff. I have good friends even though we don't discuss personal/relationship ish, I know those of them that would be there for me if I need them. I hope they know i'm that way too. Many times I felt left out but then I thought it wasn't enough reason to be so upset so I let it pass. What would I have said sef? When there are more than two friends in a circle, it's that way. I have "friends" that call only when they need my help but there's hardly anyone available to do me a favour. I have those that would spoil their kind acts with hypocrisy. All of these made me "hold my side", one man mopol which could be a good thing if one intends to be self-centred. When I was going to NLS Kano, I made up my mind not to make friends or keep in touch with anyone I met there. I was upset with some friends and refused to speak with them. Sometimes, I would struggle to say hello but the bitterness was still there. I refused to talk about it but I would think about their "sins" and justify the grudges I was keeping. That's when I asked myself WWJD? It certainly wasn't worth losing friends or going to hell for. The truth is that everyone would hurt one, at one point or the other. You just have to find the ones worth "suffering" for. Please ditch toxic friends (and don't bring toxins to anyone's lives). Remember one loyal friend is worth more than a thousand (disloyal) relatives. Anyway, family isn't necessarily related by blood but by loyalty.
Are you a real friend? When people think of you do they feel they can pour their heart out to you in their most vulnerable state and know you'll be a shoulder to lean on? Or do they feel like they have to look like they "have it together?" Be the friend you wish you have. I'm sorry if you're going through stuff and you've not had a sincere shoulder to lean on or a pure heart to pray with you. I'm sorry if you feel lost and alone. I'm sorry if I've been too absolved in myself to notice. I love you and I wish you all the happiness in the world.
*Ish = Issue
Bff = Best friends forever
NLS = Nigerian Law School
WWJD = What will Jesus do?