You are not a charity organisation and should not date just anyone. I'm not saying anyone is better than the other but my dear, when it comes to who you're with, please discriminate. Do not settle for some "nonsense". People say, dating/courtship does not have to lead to marriage. The period is to get to know and understand each other. If it works out, good. If not, move ahead bae, sharp sharp. Do you know some people seek God's face before dating? It's not foolishness or over spirituality, it's wisdom. Dating is not a joke.
What are you doing with someone of another faith? That's the first disqualification. You just going to get your heart broken. You may not be thinking marriage now but you need to get that the goal of a relationship isn't to have pictures for your display pictures, free meals or to feel "false" love. The goal of a relationship is to know if you're suited for each other and learn how to work things through. When you start dating someone of the other religion now. After some time, you fall in love with him and wouldn't want to break up. You may get around getting married but when the issues begin in the marriage ehn, especially when kids are involved, you may not be too pleased. It works for a few people , majority regret it on the long run. 2 Corinthians 2:14. The deed has been done? 1 Corinthians 7:13.
A married man or a man who believes in polygamous should never be entertained. Sheer waste of time and energy. Remember Aunty Karma lives just around the corner.
Why are you with a guy without prospects, a guy content with waiting for "his" miracle or a guy that spends the weekend/evenings at clubs and bars? Do you think he'll stay at home when you're married or you want to change him? I wish you the very best.
A guy that beats you up? *sigh* You're sleeping on a bicycle. He isn't your parent and has no right to discipline you, call you names, talk down at or humiliate you, I hope you realise that that's domestic violence. If he can't caution you in love, he isn't your man.
Don't do babies. You're his babe not mom or therapist. Every single guy should be able to take care of his laundry, feeding and emotional needs until he makes you a "help fit for him". When you have to be out of town when married, you know he'll be okay. He should know what he wants, go for it and be able to stand his ground. A baby can't protect you, you know?
You shouldn't be with a slacker. A guy that has no plans for the future, just taking each day at a time. What is that? No matter how little he makes, he should save something. He should have an idea of how he wants his life to work out.
Ditch the liar.
Forget the cheat.
A guy that claims to be who he isn't for you except you're fake.
An hypocrite is one whose values and standards differ depending on where he is and who he is with. A confused human being isn't your portion.
Falling pregnant isn't enough reason to marry someone. Forget what the society would say. Making the mistake of marrying the wrong guy will only make your life worse and the society still won't applaud. I'm not approving of fornication o, thank you.
Don't date or marry out of pity. It works against happiness in marriage.
You shouldn't be with a man that believes marriage is more for procreation than companionship. You will not be the neck that holds the head in the marriage, you'll be a leg that can be amputated.
Don't be with one that places a lot of emphasis on your looks.
A pompous man is a no-no. If your man doesn't treat his subordinates fairly, you deserve better. Humility is such a yes.
Forget about the flake. A man who constantly calls off dates, changes plans and never shows up/does as he promised. You want a reliable and considerate man.
Most importantly go for a man that fears and loves God, respects and treats everyone well. A man that respects you and puts you first. One you can easily talk to and know how to make you feel
better. One that respects your family, need their blessings before making you his and makes them his
family too. He should not fight dirty and want to win every argument, neither should you. He should not be threatened by your dreams but support it. He should make you a priority.
Like I say, when it comes to the choice of who to be with. Please be selfish and discriminate. Your happiness matters alot. If you miss it, keeping back on track would be very difficult. God help us.
Thank you for reading *mmuah*
*2 Corinthians 6:14 "Stop forming inappropriate relationships with unbelievers. Can right and wrong be partners? Can light have anything in common with darkness?"
1 Corinthians 7:13 "And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him."