*in Zainab Balogun's voice* My pet peeve today is about persons we love. They charm us in all the possible ways, respect us, say the right things, are all shades of nice and sweet. We think they are the best thing after chocolate and we often say "Your spouse is so blessed to have you" or "You're such an amazing parent". The spouse/kids, if present, may give an humble smile or echo our words. We go home to pray for such an amazing spouse/parent. Or we question God, "Why isn't my spouse like that?" Upon all their efforts, daddy, as always, still has something to complain about.
It's 4pm. Daddy would be back by 5pm and the home suddenly, but as usual, loses it's peace. As mommy is jumping up and down, making sure food is not only ready before he gets home but tasty. She, alongside the kids, makes sure all loose ends are tied. Daddy shouldn't have anything to "fry" us about today. Neighbours/friends are diplomatically asked to leave. Oh daddy would be all sweet to them but he'll crucify mommy for making his home available to guests once they leave.
Everybody looks forward to 6pm. The ladies start packing their things and re-applying their makeup. The married men call home to ask what's for dinner and can't wait to spend the rest of the day with their wives and kids. The envied man, married to the very sexy Miss Nigeria 2012, mother of a set of 2 year old twin boys with a banging body, fantastic cook, good communicator, the seemingly perfect wife and mom, is however afraid to go home. His wife makes the home as hot as hell for him. She is very different from the sweetheart the world thinks she is. Definitely not the calm and reserved lady. Maybe the busybody, gossip, nag, never happy for others, jealous spontaneous bad belle, hypocrite, selfish nag can briefly describe her.
If you are like "Daddy" or the ex pretty queen, you are seriously jonzing. Why are you faking to people who do not care and treating those that care badly? You shouldn't treat anyone badly. But then, your family should never doubt your love and loyalty. Life is short. Why are you cruising on the high way to hell? Make things right. Stop faking the good life, live it. It's never too late besides, it better late than ever.
If a family member makes life difficult for you, pray for God to change the heart. Involve someone responsible or two that he/she respects, if need be. Get some good counselling. We'll talk about domestic violence extensively. Whether to leave or stay.
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