So someone messaged me asking for our advice. Like really? Hard to believe but super cool. I think she needs support and encouragement most of all. Here it is
First of all, I totally LOVE your blog! It's so refreshing and different from gossip blogs. Real mature stuff on here. I don't get around to commenting but I'm addicted. You sound so young (like you know what's up) and so old (full of wisdom). Thank you.
I write to you because i'm unhappy and think I can get mature advice here. I've been married 6years and never been pregnant for a minute. I'm usually happy and happy for those who have babies. Recently, an unmarried friend recently got knocked up. She is so dear to my heart and I visit often. I know she likes that I visit but she favours another friend over me. She'll rather have that friend hold her baby and do stuff for her. Even her mum prefers the friend over me because she talks all about cleaning and cooking. Sorry, I don't see any reason talking about my home and being an ITK. I was so hurt by them yesterday. I put up a smile as always but I'm still hurt. If only I had a baby. What do I do?
Please hide my identity. Thank you.
I'm sorry you feel that way. I really don't think you should take it personally. I'm glad you're happy for others. There are so many babies in heaven, so whoever gets a baby didn't take yours. Talk to a doctor while you patiently wait. I could think of four options on how to deal with your friend:
1. Forgive in advance and don't take to heart.
2. Reduce the frequency of your visits.
3. Stop visiting and be a friend from afar.
4. Speak with your friend about it, she may/may not mention to her mom. Possible outcomes?
(a) It may not be intentional and they stop doing what hurts you
(b) It may not be intentional but they start acting awkward.
(c) It may not be intentional and they do not care about how you feel.
(d) It may not be intentional and they think you're jealous or overly sensitive.
(e) It may be intentional, they are sorry and make adjustments.
(f) It may be intentional and they don't care.
Hopefully, you'll get advice from other readers. Remember Psalm 126:5? "Those who sow in tears will reap in joy." Thanks for your kind words *e-hugs* Maybe you could start commenting. I love you.
Thanks for reading, Kindly drop kind words/advice. Xoxo, Anuoluwapo.