I think it's very unrealistic to expect so much from men, to want them to be responsible when we don't teach them to be so. The girl child is disciplined and domesticated. The son is allowed to spend the day playing football with friends. He comes in in time for dinner. He eats and puts his dirty clothes in the laundry basket for his sister to sort out. The sister is always reminded of how she would end up in her husband's house. She is trained to be a dutiful wife and mommy. She has a curfew. She dare not be home after 5pm and dinner must be ready by 7pm. The parents are relaxed when it comes to raising their son. He is welcomed home by 5am, from the club, with breakfast (or last night's dinner). At least, he is better than Mrs Midnight's son that goes 2 weeks before returning home. He is allowed to bring female friends home and even take them to his room. "Allow him, thank God he isn't gay" mommy says. He gets tattoos, drinks excessively and keeps late night. Daddy says "He is just a boy, if he doesn't do them now, when would he?" He impregnates a girl and the girl is the cheap one. He is a boy and that's what boys do. Really?
Does the Bible say "Train up a DAUGHTER in a way she should go and when she is old, she won't depart from it?" It says train up a child! So why are you neglecting the boy child. Why is it bad but acceptable for a boy to be into yahoo, armed robbery and cultism but totally bad and unacceptable for a girl? What is good for the goose is good for the gander. What is good for the girl child is good for the boy child. Stop neglecting your son. If it is unacceptable for your daughter to get pregnant out of wedlock, it is totally unacceptable for your son to impregnate anyone. If your girl must be domesticated, so must your son. Why are daughters taught to be virgins and son told to enjoy their lives? If you train your daughters to be ready for their future, you should do same to your sons. You want your girls to marry well behaved men but you don't teach your sons. Yet you expect someone's daughter to marry your son.
Your daughter is domesticated, why isn't your son? Knowing how to cook or keep the home tidy benefits him and him alone. Women are career oriented now. They have something to bring to the board room. Some even work longer hours and earn more than their men. It makes a lot of sense to compromise and meet yourselves halfway. The era of dictating is long over. Wives are executive assistants and not slaves. So many men know how to cook now, even if it's just the basics. I would pick a man that makes his meals and has a tidy apartment over a "fast food" man or a bachelor with a cook/housekeeper. Train your sons to honour and respect women. To help his wife as much as he can. That's a way to show appreciation for her care and support. A man who has learnt this won't rape or violate a woman in any way. Dear men, what better way to teach your sons than by example?
Women let's say no to big babies, men we have to "mother". Men who think it is beneath them to help around the house or make our lives easier. Just like men say no to ladies with no home training, say no to men with no home training. Let's train our sons in the way of God to be decent, useful to us and the society. To be the type of man we want for ourselves/our daughters. God help us. Amen.
Thank you for reading. Xoxo