Sunday 15 June 2014

Is that your child?

Why is your child listening to that song? Why is he singing that? Can't you hear the lyrics? Why is she dancing like that? Oh I see your daughter has been watching music videos. Good for you, you have a 3year old aspiring video vixien. Music appeals to both the young and old. Haven't you seen kids below 1year enjoying music to the extent of attempting to dance? They aren't deaf or blind. You can't watch videos in front of her and not expect her to dance that way. Isn't that what you exposed her to? That's what you taught her. Funny thing is instead of us feeling bad, we get all excited and proud, we make videos and spread the word. "My daughter is so smart, Shakira in the making". Someone's 21 year old son is a Ph.d holder, now that's smart.
There are lovely and exciting educational dvds for kids. They get to play, sign, dance, draw, cook and learn at the same time. Tv stations like nickeledeons, cartoon network, cbbc, Disney jnr are what they should watch. Not afmag, not mnet!! Some children programmes should even be screened. The music played at a 1 year old's party is the same played at a 28 year old's. Now I get why my mom didn't approve of me dancing at birthday parties then. Something should be done about it. Same catchy beats but better lyrics. You should care, even if you don't have kids now, in a couple of years you'll be hosting parties for kids and have cause to attend such parties *wink wink*
A friend said we can't always protect our kids from the world. I totally agree but we're also not going to leave them outside our doors for the world to feast on them. We're still going to do our bit. Beyonce was trying to protect her daughter by hiding her face. I watched an Angelina Jolie interview and she said not all her kids have seen her movies because they are too young. Yet we allow ours to watch the movies. If a movie doesn't say "Family viewing", it's not for children. If it says PG, you need to supervise. Parents that encourage their kids to join the entertainment industry, hmmm. Even adults misbehave when the fame comes, talk less children. Examples? Lindsay Lohan, Chris Brown, Paris Hilton,... Will and Jada Smith's parenting skills are being questioned because of the picture of their underage singer daughter, Willow, in bed with a young man (Rico in Hannah Montana) in bed. No matter how talented they seem, maturity and education first abeg.
Shout out to (would-be) parents making, or will make, healthy and firm decisions. Your efforts won't be in vain. Amen!

*PG = Parental guidance
 Proverbs 22:6 = Start children off in the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.
Proverbs 22:6


Willow Smith and Moises Arias

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

Good ! God continue 2 give u wisdom. Dear. Children of naw adays are learnin fast d pace is just 2 much and it realy nids a lot of parental guidiance. Let's not over look tins dat are important .

Anuoluwapo said...

Amen. I pray same for you. Thank you

stacy said...

Kudos Anu! Parents really need to be careful with what they allow their children watch and most importantly,pray for them too..I pray God will give parents the strength to train their children in a Godly way.

Anuoluwapo said...

Thank you baby. Amen

Eniwealth said...

Spot on Anu. I remember receiving a hot knock on my head for sneaking some of my antys' make up on as a 9 or 11 year old. Now u see make up and expensive weaves on 5 or 6 year old. Whatever happened to adimole. How won't we have our kids aspiring to become video vixens when our society celebrates them. I don't know when dancing naked to the delight of your viewers became a worthy profession.

Anuoluwapo said...

Lmao! I remember that story. Yes o @ kids with weaves. Have you noticed the phones and gadgets they use? I hope we won't make these mistakes when we become parents

Anonymous said...

Yeah Anu, as much as I wanna lay it at d parents feet I just feel that d society has a bigger role to play. D scriptures says to teach our child in d way to go & wen they grow, they won't depart from it but society & peer pressure has altered this. Kids now lodge complaints @ child welfare wen parents scold them. Read about a kids recently who sued her folks cos she wasn't getting any money wen she moved out of her parents house against their wish. It's pretty messed up but God will help us in raising our kids.

Anuoluwapo said...

"Oyinbo" children problems. I'm not sure God will excuse us on the grounds that society won't allow us discipline them. There are kids doing very well over there, why can't ours do same? Early friendship with the kids may come in handy. I'm not in "your" shoes so it may be easy for me to say

Esquire said...

God will hold us accountable for each child we bring into this world. The truth is parents on today have much more parenting work to do compared to parents of old. Technology has brought lot of comfort and good as well as lots of wahala for us. 3yr old kids can use and IPAD without assitance and watch lots of rubbish. We have no excuse not to train our kids properly. Lets not throw away our moral/Godly values.

Anuoluwapo said...

Spot on